It wasn’t exclusive, but the last time we were together, we were both supposedly single.So after a few drinks at a bar, we headed back to his place.Needless to say, I never went back to the Bat Cave again.” —Christy, 28 “This cute guy wined and dined me on a few dates before the fateful night I decided to go back to his place.
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Rather than become a shut-in out of fear of your ex encounter, embrace the possibility and plan for it. In fact, your ex encounter will probably be a lot less dramatic than this scenario. In bumping into your ex, you may be reminded of what you loved about him or her. Instead, summon that inner strength, smile politely, and extricate yourself from the situation as soon as is possible without being rude.
First, imagine the absolute worst case scenario: You haven’t showered in days, your clothes are wrinkled and smelly, your hair is a mess, and you happen to run into your ex on a date with the most gorgeous girl you’ve ever seen. It may even reignite those familiar feelings of love, lust, or just plain loneliness. Follow the Six-Month Rule After a breakup, the best rule of thumb is to avoid all contact with your ex for at least six months.
The following are some tips to help you avoid a post-breakup backslide into your ex’s arms, and instead ease you into your happily ever after future: Create new Boundaries Your best defense after a breakup? That means no phone calls, no e-mails, no texting, and definitely no late-night visits. That means it’s time to “ex-tricate” him or her from your life. You just have to create special new boundaries, only dealing with and talking to your ex when absolutely necessary about your common interests, i.e., the children, business, work. And in the era of social networking sites and You Tube, it’s all too easy to go online and spew in front of millions of readers/viewers. By going online and bashing your ex on your blog, via video diary, or to everyone in your social network, you are inviting bad breakup karma into your life. Handle the Dreaded Run-in with Class While it would be fabulous if your ex could be automatically ejected from the planet following the breakup, that technology has yet to be invented.
What if you can’t completely cut off contact because you have children together, run a business together, or work together? If your ex wants to know how you’re handling the breakup? And you know what they say—what comes around goes around. And depending on the size of the city you live in, a post-breakup run-in with your ex is not only possible, it’s probable. Bumping into him does not mean that the two of you are meant to be together.
In letting go of your ex, you give yourself permission to heal, move on, and eventually find your very own happily ever after.