There’s a difference between getting along as friends and connecting as lovers.Dating will help with that, while also making it way less intense for the both of you. “You already know that you have fun with this person, you know a lot about them and you feel comfortable with them,” Nicole says.(Are there things you keep secret from your partner? (Are there times you dread spending time with your partner?) You freely give your time, energy and attention to your friends. )We should be giving our relationship partners the same kind of support we give our friends. in Psychology Today, in order for a relationship to be successful, there must be a balance between two very different concepts that reflect both the friendship and passionate parts of a relationship.Though I haven’t been able to truly be friends with a guy after we bumped uglies, Nicole says it’s possible. “It is possible to be friends again, but it can take time.” Fingers crossed!“It could be a romance based on a solid friendship,” says Nicole.You have more to lose with this person than another person that you have no history with and will never see again.”“If you are going to become lovers, then start a relationship like you normally would: date her,” Nicole recommends.
But if she’s someone who you’re just curious about (a.k.a you wanna bang), I’d leave her alone and go for the pretty stranger at the bar.
In a post for Fox News Magazine, Kim Olver, author of "Secrets of Happy Couples: Loving Yourself, Your Partner and Your Life," stresses the importance of friendship in romance: When I think of reasons people cheat, I often hear things like, ‘She never supports me.’ ‘He didn't want to spend time with me.’ ‘She doesn't understand me.’ ‘He never really listens when I talk to him.’ ‘I don't even think s/he likes me.’ ‘S/he is always complaining.’ Aren't all these statements really the opposite of the core of friendship?
Think about how you are with your friends: You tell each other everything.
I think often times when friends become lovers, the dating phase is skipped over because you know each other well enough that the “first date” often feels more like the fifteenth.
Assumptions are made and important questions aren’t asked because, well, things are blurry.
As soon as you are in the romantic relationship zone you risk getting hurt. We want all the benefits it reaps, but we don’t want the repercussions from it, either.