A quick disclosure: I have a couple of dating profiles online. But this isn’t therapy masquerading as a self-pitying article by some bloke in his late-30s — well, not much, anyway.
I’ve got a number of friends and acquaintances who share my feelings about the way online dating plays fast and loose with your emotions.
As one friend said to me, there was a time when she felt like the most popular woman in the country.Back in 1966, The Supremes told us you can’t hurry love.Sixteen years later Phil Collins concurred when he sang ‘You just have to wait’, additionally noting that ‘love don’t come easy’.It’s like a fast-working drug with a terrible come-down.It’s an addictive process, there’s no doubt about it. One is the burst of elation associated with a stranger suddenly deciding that you’re attractive, amusing, a good prospect.
Internet dating presents you with rock-solid evidence. You start seeing the same faces across multiple sites, and some people (especially men) will start to play the percentage game, firing off multiple cut-and-paste emails in the hope that someone will reply.