But how can you tell if you're working with a legitimate psychopath?
Psychopaths aren't simply jerks or bullies — they must meet a certain set of criteria, as outlined by the Hare Psychopathy Checklist.
If you decide to take the risk, then set some boundaries and come to a few understandings.
For example: What happens outside of work, stays outside of work; there will be no abuse of power, no sexual harassment, and no sexual harassment law suits; there will be no special treatment or undeserved promotions; when you meet up after work, there will be a set deadline at which point all shoptalk must cease, etc.
If you two have conflicting expectations, breaking up is the only honorable thing to do. If a serious relationship is budding, no need to hide it.
leaving dirty Polaroids under each other's keyboards…
doing it on your boss's desk while he or she is in the Hamptons.
(Because, given the odds, you'll both move on within a few months.)Your decision will depend on the happy hour specials or end-of-year bonuses, as well as on the potential of the relationship.
Obviously you should risk less for a one-night stand than for a chance at true love, which comes along less often than a charming little watering hole or a decent job offer…3.
While only a professional should diagnose psychopathy, a psychopathic cowoker or boss may demonstrate some of these signs.